I was upstairs folding laundry when I heard a knock at the front door. It doesn’t take much to make me forget about folding laundry so I headed downstairs to see who was here. It was my friend Tom, owner of our local bookstore. He had a young man with him. Tom introduced us: “Jamie! This is Jacob. He’s just back from the Peace Corps. You two should talk!” and with a cheery wave of his hand, Tom was gone.
I invited Jacob in and made us tea. He was indeed just a few days back from two years of teaching school in a South African village and, like all of us who have returned home after serving in the Peace Corps, Jacob was wondering about what comes next. I understood. I remembered returning to America and asking myself “So, now what? Where do I go from here?”
Reentry isn’t easy. In my case, I had been away for four years: two in a small village in the remote western mountains of Tunisia, followed by two more on the Peace Corps Staff in the capital city of Tunis. When I finally returned home, America seemed to have gotten along just fine without me; it hadn’t changed all that much. But I had changed. A lot.
The French have a word for the feeling of being untethered, even lost, in unfamiliar surroundings: dépaysé. All of a sudden, I felt like a stranger in a strange land. For a returning Peace Corps Volunteer, that dilemma is compounded because now you’re back home, but home doesn’t feel like it once did. Moreover, you’re confronted with the challenge of finding your way in a world that is vastly different from the one you’ve left behind. And then there are the existential questions and expectations, some self-imposed, some societal. What comes next?
I delayed answering those questions by going to graduate school. But when that was over, all those questions were still out there, demanding answers. I tried banking, but it didn’t take. So, on the assumption that I had enjoyed international work, I moved my young family to Washington and began looking for a job there…
I have always admired people who have a plan and stick to it. They know exactly who they are and what they want and they never deviate from their plan; they just make it happen. One of my college roommates was like that: he always knew he wanted to be a doctor, but not just any doctor. He wanted to be a surgeon; not just any surgeon, but a hand surgeon; and not just a hand surgeon, but a doctor practicing in a teaching hospital, training other doctors in the art of hand surgery. And that’s exactly what he did with his life. Now, he is retired from a successful career, and there are many fine hand surgeons today who have my former roommate to thank for their own careers.
But I’m not like that. I had to discover my path, and so I began to cross the river of my life on steppingstones— a seemingly random path of people and professional opportunities that slowly but surely led me to a time and place I did not foresee and could never have scripted. It has been, to say the least, a miraculous journey, guided by unseen hands. For example, When I first arrived in Washington more than forty-five years ago, I was dépaysé in the extreme, I set about looking for work, and one day, after several dead-ends, I went to yet another job interview in which It became quickly apparent to me (and probably to the person interviewing me!) that I would be a fish out of water in that particular organization. I left the building feeling more confused than ever and—literally!— bumped into a man I hadn’t seen in several years. He had known me from my Peace Corps days, and when he asked me what I was doing, I told him my story. He listened then casually mentioned that he had just heard about a new organization that was putting together a series of educational programs including a film for public television and a major traveling art exhibition with the goal of enhancing American understanding of, and appreciation for, Islamic cultures at a time in our history when both were sadly lacking. He gave me the name of a person to contact and off he went, quickly swallowed up in the busy sidewalk crowd. I never saw him again.
The next day, I followed up on that lead and, as they say, the rest is history. That first stone led me to the next and the next, on and on and on, until all my steppingstones eventually brought me to this time and this place. Granted, some of those stones were slippery and, yes, I stumbled once or twice, but now, looking back in wonder, I have no doubt whatsoever that those steppingstones and those unseen hands brought me safely to this pleasant shore where I am blessed beyond measure.
I tried my best to articulate all this to young Jacob. I think he understood. Before we parted, I proposed he speak with a friend of mine whom I thought might be a steppingstone for him. We shook hands and I went back upstairs to finish folding the laundry.
The next day, Jacob texted me to say he had made contact with my friend and had scheduled a meeting with her. I read his message and smiled: he was on his way.
I’ll be right back!
Jamie Kirkpatrick is a writer and photographer who lives on both sides of the Chesapeake Bay. His editorials and reviews have appeared in the Washington Post, the Baltimore Sun, the Philadelphia Inquirer, the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette, the Washington College Alumni Magazine, and American Cowboy Magazine. His most recent novel, “The Tales of Bismuth; Dispatches from Palestine, 1945-1948” explores the origins of the Arab-Israeli conflict. It is available on Amazon and in local bookstores. His newest novel, “The People Game,” hits the market in February, 2026. His website is musingjamie.net.









